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Here’s What To Do When You’re Feeling a Little Depressed

by Kimberly Hill | May 30, 2021 | Blogs, Happiness, Motivation

10 Tips To Get You Back on Track

So you’re feeling a little depressed? Well, firstly, you should know that it’s okay not to feel okay.

It’s the moments of sadness and pain that allow us to feel moments of happiness and joy. This is called the law of polarity. For anything to exist, there has to be an equal and exact opposite.

But logical facts rarely provide the remedy we seek in reading such an article as this. That being said, here are ten of my favorite ways to alleviate those unwelcome symptoms of sorrow:

1. Go For a Walk

Nature has a very healing effect. Lace up your shoes, pop on your jacket, select some great tunes and go for a brisk walk. Sometimes we need a little of Mother nature’s healing effect to re-center ourselves.

2. Do Some Writing

Stop and do a little reflecting. Research proves that writing about our troubling times can have a healthy effect on our immune systems. Buy yourself a new journal, get a pen, light a candle and let it all out.

3. Turn Up the Music

Combat the feelings of loneliness by turning up the tunes. So choose something uplifting. A study found that

“…people with depression are most likely to use music to intensify a negative mood, [but] they are also the least aware of this tendency.”

That’s probably not the best way to cheer yourself up. So do the opposite.

4. Call a Friend

Reach out to a friend or family member. You don’t have to hide your feelings. Reach out for support. Let them know you’re feeling down and wanted to reach out and talk. Ask about their day. Anything. Just talk.

5. Make Yourself Laugh

Pop on a comedy show, a funny Hollywood flick or anything that will get you laughing. Laughter decreases our stress hormones and increases immune cells and infection-fighting antibodies. Before you know it, you’ll be feeling better.

6. Do a Little Deep Breathing

Take a minute to do some deep breathing. Repeated deep breaths will naturally bring your heart rate more in alignment with your breath. This will cause your brain to release those feel-good endorphins — chemicals that have a natural calming effect.

7. Practice Gratitude

Use this as an opportunity to list out all the things you’re grateful for. Having a gratitude practice keeps us happier in life. Grab that notebook and jot down some things you’re thankful for.

8. Get Out of the House

Sometimes we need to change our environment. Get out of the house for a walk or a drive. Surprise a friend or hit your local cafe for a cup of feel-good java.

9. Cry and Let it Out

Know that it’s okay not to feel okay. Hold space for yourself and let it out. Crying is a natural way to release that pent-up energy and emotion inside of us. If you need to cry, do it. I guarantee you’ll feel better afterward.

10. Take a Cold Shower

Jump into a cold shower. A cold shower is an integral part of an ancient Ayurvedic ritual. Cold showers work as gentle electroshock therapy, which jolts our system into clarity and higher energy levels and releases feel-good endorphins.

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Am I In A Trauma Bond?

by Kimberly Hill | May 30, 2021 | Blogs, Relationships

Photo by Larm Rmah

Trauma bonding or traumatic bonding is when you are unable to leave a relationship even when your partner is treating you poorly.

Here are some signs that you may be in a trauma bond:

Your partner is critical of you, but you move towards the tiny bits of affection they give you despite this.
You are stuck in a pattern of highs and lows
You can’t think of positive reasons to stay in the relationship (but you do anyway)
You don’t know how to find the strength to leave
You don’t have a sense of self in the relationship
You don’t have autonomy or agency in the relationship

An individual is able to break the cycle of a trauma bond by being radically honest with themselves and setting firm boundaries. Unfortunately, this is difficult to do alone.

If you have found yourself in a relationship that is based on trauma, it’s important to be persistent in your desire to end the relationship and work on yourself.

Seeking a coach or therapist to help you is important to break the cycle and support you to move on.

Leaving relationships like this is never easy, but it’s worth it and you can do it.